Before you say i do...give this some thought...how about not getting married? shouldnt being together, be enough?
First of all...i find to many times that "true love " is often confused with the explosive experience or that craving of "falling" in love. This is where all barriers are suddenly collapsed. But this experience of sudden intimacy is unfortunately always short lived. After the intimacy is known, there are no more barriers to overcome. There is no more sudden closeness to be achieved. The "loved" person becomes as well known to the other as oneself (Ever heard "i know her/him more than she/he knows herself")? If there were more depth and less familiarity in the other, an infiniteness of a personality is consistently appreciated, then that miracle of overcoming those barriers occurs every day anew.
But for most...these encounters are too soon exhausted. Infatuation and sexual attraction takes over, Intimacy is confused for sexual contact.
soon the fairytale ends. OH NO! but how!? how TRAGIC. Well you SEE, Secondary to the exhaustion of the fast ridden relationship they seek love with a new person, with a new stranger. Again this stranger is transformed into an exhilarating new "intimate" person...and again, the intimacy becomes less and less, and ends in the wish for a new conquest, a new love- always with the illusion that the new love will be different than the latter. The deceptive character of sexual desire SUCKS people into this hole. Serial daters fall captive to a cycle of poor rapid/irrational choices.
Im sure there are many that are able to fuse a sexual relationship into a commited, responsible, choice to marry....
It just all seems much too trivial to me. I say for now...i choose to not marry. not for a loooong time....
anyhow ive said enough for today. heres my fave new jam. wish my voice was as distinct as sIa's:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fSts_0sCUeg
